Hi aes! Sorry that you are in the place you find yourself in! You have come to a great place and there some great people who will go out of their way to help you.
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Even if we divorce, once that relationship is over, is there any way I can win her back. I'm willing to date her again and truly build a relationship with her, and us trying to see if things would work would not mean we need to remarry right away, or move in right away. Just take things slow. She knows this because I told her when I agreed to the divorce.
I'm sure you have read through this thread a bit and seen all sorts of great advice. What works for some doesn't work for others. Honestly, there isn't anything you can do to win her back. Until, and only until, she stops seeing the OM there isn't any room for you. That is one of the toughest pills to swallow - we must realize that they are on their own road and unfortunately that road doesn't have room for us...just them.
So, my friend, what you need to do is work on becoming the best aes that you can. Hobbies? Immerse yourself in them - find some that require your full attention so nothing else can enter your mind. GAL'ing works very, very well...and can be tough to do at the same time.
Most of us here have been in your place. I was. As were countless others. And we've all tried to win them back..we've all thought if I could just do this it would help. But there is nothing we can/could have done. Nothing. There are only two possible outcomes - either they come back or they don't. Not to be harsh, but I won't blow sunshine, either.
So, the question is, what can you do for yourself?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
