"The girls" are a particular problem. I wear heavy gloves and expect to get peed on. The second one is worse than the first. Planning is key. Have the carrier set out with the door open so that it is somewhat familiar. I have yet to have the cat walk in but I'm a pretty optimistic guy - why else would I be here? Cat #1 is usually fairly easy. I place the carrier by where they hang out, scoop the cat up and then put them in arse first closing the door quickly so that they don't jump back out. Getting the cat out from under the bed would be your first challenge.
I too have been getting the "just D her" message a lot. People around me are even more tired of this than I am it would seem. Most cases that look like ours on the surface end fairly quickly with divorce which is why many people think that's "normal". But there's nothing normal at all about what we are going through. We each have to find our own reasons for "standing" - for me, my reasons sometimes change day by day.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
