Yes this time of year can be hard. Forget about H for now. His mlc house of cards will crumble eventually. It is inevitable. But in the meantime what are you doing to make the best of the festive season. Focus on that for this week.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together