You had to PROVE you were HOME? He's right, theres no way to have total transparency. So at some point, it comes down to some level of trust. And thats something you will need to slowly earn back. I just dont think that sending a picture every 30 minutes and doing an extra ton of household chores is effective. What if you fell asleep for 30 minutes?
Be open and honest. Thats all you can do. If he asks for a password or to check something, then let him have at it. But I think going out of your way in this 'above and beyond' manner is too much - honestly, it screams like you are still guilty, you know?
Yea, I can see that too I guess. I'm slowly getting there...learning to "relax" some and know that whatever I do will never be enough right now, but just to do the best I can. I'm trying to be out-of-sight but present, if that makes sense. I come out and make breakfast or dinner, which he typically doesn't touch, then do stuff around the house and go read in my room if there isn't much else to be done. He just stays in the living room watching tv. I got a self-help book in the mail yesterday and he came in, threw it on the bed and said "nothing can change you from being a pos." Other than that, til later last night, he stays out and avoids me. I'm just trying to give him his space. I got out and did some grocery shopping the other day..so that was a plus lol. Felt nice to get out of the house for a minute, and not for work, and catch my breath. I guess I keep reading be as transparent as possible and be consistent. Those are the only things I have right now, so I'm probable overdoing it. Thanks for your advice!
