One question I could ask y'all is about transparency. That came up in our conversation last night and he said there's no such thing because there's always a way around it. For example, he went to his work Christmas party Friday night and was gone for almost 5 hours. He had originally told me he wasn't going, but last minute he did which left me frantic trying to find a way to prove that I was home alone all night and not talking with this guy. I sent a picture with the time in it every 30 minutes. His thing is that the guy could have been in the house even though I took the picture. I was on the phone with my mom and bestfriend (different times) but for a total of over 3 hours. I cleaned, did his laundry..anything I could think of to prove I was there at the house. While I think he believes me, there's always a way around any of it. Every 30 minutes...ok....I could run down the street and check back in every 30. I don't know, he says its useless trying to be transparent in today's day and age with access to fake email and all that, but thats all I know to do at this point.
I hope you can see how ridiculous this is.
You had to PROVE you were HOME? He's right, theres no way to have total transparency. So at some point, it comes down to some level of trust. And thats something you will need to slowly earn back. I just dont think that sending a picture every 30 minutes and doing an extra ton of household chores is effective. What if you fell asleep for 30 minutes?
Be open and honest. Thats all you can do. If he asks for a password or to check something, then let him have at it. But I think going out of your way in this 'above and beyond' manner is too much - honestly, it screams like you are still guilty, you know?
