I too feel this will be a long journey. Expectationa for 2017: tell kids, S or D, daily co parenting, W will pursue POM.

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving