Also, M at the time I was doing a lot of spiritual heart work, with shamanic journeying, meditations, mantras, herbs, flower essences and aromatherapy which helped a lot. The thing is we can only meet people where they are. This is especially true of a person in MLC, right? I remind myself that stbxh's MLC is a sickness, and I try not to add to it. I try to bring as much compassion in as I can... and sometimes when my buttons are pushed and I blow up it's hard to be compassionate. Those are the moments when I stop myself and say ok, this isn't going to help anyone, least of all our son ... and usually, we both stop and take a deep breathe and continue in a more reasonable manner.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver