There is no normal.

If you and your WW split 50 50 then inevitably she will have to work full time pay her way.

Unless you are prepared to pay for her (probably for the rest of her life) why should she not work to build her life, her pension?

The longer you delay then the fewer the consequences for WW.

It's time to get the piper to play the tune.

My 2c

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW