Once my W decided she needed to move out she knew that we would be separating finances. I am the primary bread winner and she only works part time. We did cash in 2 of our mutual funds. I let her have the bigger of the 2 and I took the other. She is now going to have to work more but with the extra money she will still be able to stay home with the boys the majority of week days. I helped her in this way because at the time of the decision we had both been miserable and not talking for months. When she said she was moving out I felt it was the only way for us to move forward no matter how it ends up. It is a strange sitch but we are getting along well since the decision to move.
Still not sure what things look like once she moves but I will play it by ear and take any suggestions I get here into consideration.
Me:42 W:37 M:18 T:23 3S: 4,7,10 EA 6/16 ILYBNILWY 7/16 9/16 separate BR 10/16 Discernment Counseling She's moving out 1/17