Your H hanging on to past GF's....and keepsakes hanging out, is just plain creepy to me. Yes, it is absolutely disrespectful to his W! And the way he talked to you about all his GF's, is inappropriate.
Sandi2- Thank you for the reassurance. I hated it but tried to work with it, explaining it away, letting him know how much it bothered me. He's selfish and stubborn and maybe worse.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
IMHO, when he did not respond to your terms of no more contacting his ex......that was your answer. You cannot trust him. Trust has to be earned by the cheater. You can't just decide you will trust a liar. He has to prove himself. This man is not right. He has toi many secrets and hidden agendas. If you were my daughter, I would tell you to get as far away from him as possible.
You deserve a man of integrity. One who will cherish his W enough to be honest and transparent........and who has no other woman kept standing in the shadows.
You are so right about trust. This has been my problem. I kept looking at the situation from one side. Thinking i just needed to reset my mind and start over. To forgive and forget. The problem was I was the only one making changes. He didn't really work on regaining my trust, did he? Even now he chooses to go to a get together where she will be despite knowing how much trouble this has caused and how much of a role it played in the deterioration of our relationship.
My mother and sister have been telling me the same thing for a long time. I have just hated the idea of ending my marriage. I never thought I would be doing this. But I know I have been, and still am, giving it my all.
