My friend is not doing the traditional gown, just a nice beaded dress in ivory I think. So it's not like I'll be stepping on trains and sitting in the corner, my champagne flute to my lips, face hidden by veil. Actually that probably sounds about right. Champagne gives me a headache, so I really need to be careful.
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
Hey Altair, how's it going? Now chicken sitting sounds very interesting to me. Will you be allowed to use any eggs that have been laid during that time?
It will be lovely going to help your friend to try on wedding dresses I would certainly jump at the chance to do that! In fact helping D try on prom dresses made me all emotional thinking one day this could be a dress for her wedding...
What H's have done is certainly not normal. It seems to me in your sitch the NC is actually damage control as things were beginning to get very emotional for you when you were meeting so I can see this as benefiting you both. Although I know how hard it is.
Wishing you a lovely weekend (((Altair))).
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Hi Coly, yes on eggs! wonder what I should make... I have perhaps a dumb question, but I think I read about it on here. So I did the happy birthday text to H. A few hours later, got back an Altair, thanks,I appreciate it.
Ever since H left, he calls me by my name in texts, and in person before going dark. Why is that? texts never used to include my name, now they all do.
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
My W is now extremely polite. Never used to say "thank you" - now everything (the very few that I get) has that.
On the other hand it is so very tough for me to call her by name and not use any of pet names or even just "dear" or "my sweet" that I used to address her by. I took such an effort after BD2 to stop using those although I did use the occasional "dear". I think for all the years prior to BD I only called her by her name an handful of times - usually in a formal environment.
Perhaps different rules apply in Fairy Land? They certainly apply on this side of the pixie dust curtain at least to me.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
This is interesting. I often called H by his initial and he lengthen my name into a pet name. After BD, he continued to use the pet name the whole time apart from a couple of emails where he used my normal name. He would always sign off with his initial.
For me, the name things were part of our R and once we were well on the way to D, I started using normal names again. For me, if someone betrays me in that way and runs off with OW, I'm not willing to sign on and off with endearments and pretend things are okay. I switched over to 'just business.' However, I am D'd, which is a place many won't want to be!!
:-) x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
When I got more than double the initial offer from the insurance company on the damage to our house, stbxh said, "great job sweetheart" for the first time in months ...
and that was the LAST time also.
there are occasional xo's in text and email ... what's bizarre is when he refers to me in email by my formal full name, not my nickname. And he's now shortened his name rather than his full name, which he's always gone by. It's like we were full name H and nickname W when we were married but now nickname h is now divorcing full name wife.
They are just so freaking odd.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Wow this is more common than I thought! When H and I first separated I had to send him an official email about the house and at the time I was so d@mn mad at him that I signed off the email with my full name so when H replied he also used my full name. We went backwards and forwards in this formal way until eventually he got fed up and reverted back to addressing me by my nickname and had never gone back to using my full name. Very strange indeed!!
Agreed. This, plus all the classic lines of an MLCer. I have to say, in the past during breakups, I never heard these sorts of lines. But on here, I see them constantly. Iguess that's one thing that causes the panic, because it is usually a completely new experience.
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
