Just popping in to say, "awesome"! I felt stupid when I first joined a few years ago because people had 25 year marriages they were working on, and I had a couple years, so stay encouraged.
But let me just say - like you, SO had lots of single male friends. Even when I objected about it on social media, she made comments. And she said, "Oh I would NEVER date anyone on Facebook'. And yet, she ended up cheating with a single guy on Facebook, who posted lots of pics with lots of girls. Which kinda makes me chuckle as she gets used by him....
My point is allow some sad/crappy feelings to happen, because it will. But then decide what amazing feeling you're gonna search out to replace it!
Bippy78- I'm sorry to hear about what you have been going through. It's funny how people can say things to "reassure" you, just so that they can go on doing whatever selfish thing it is they want to do.
I know it will be a rollercoaster, but for right now I'm feeling confident and good about the things I had to say to my husband. If he can't agree on this, given all the lies he told me about this woman, then I would be crazy to keep subjecting myself to this. I'm a good person who deserves better.
When I start to feel a bit down, I just think back to the convo we had when I first invited him over to talk and he just screamed at me, saying this was all my fault, how I was a terrible wife, and mocked my feelings about his ex, calling me insecure about it. I think back to all the times he blamed me for our lack of a sex life. I was the one begging him to agree to couple's therapy or at least to meet with our priest. He refused until I was out the door. And then it was 12 weeks of him in total denial of his behavior.
I'm too smart to listen to this garbage. I know I have tried my best, and even now still trying! We all have flaws and make mistakes. I forgave him time after time and he just continued to do what he wanted. I never strayed, never was inappropriate with exes, and was supportive and a wife who took her responsibilities seriously and made them top priority.
If he can't see this and appreciate me, I'm not going to spend my life trying to convince him otherwise. I keep telling myself I"m not perfect, but I'm the whole d*mn package! Someone will think that of me, if not my husband. I have to be hopeful of that. I hope some of you can give yourselves pep talks like this. It feels false and forced in the beginning, but over time you really believe it and take it to heart.
