HaWho ... well its about 3 years post BD, she never changed in this area ... I do not care because lets face it ... if anyone could use some spoiling its a kid from the MLCr and I would guess its either guilt/re-connection attempt with him ... or my fav option #3 which was someoneele's take ... its an attempt to swat favor with S9, he is not shy about who he would rather stay with, spend time with though I think he tries to hide it with her I am sure it comes out ... so what better way to sweeten him up than to have Santa deliver all the goods to moms house. Again ... he benefits and is a great kid so I really see no issue with it
Touching on 'baggage' .... I know this is a standing site and well ... I am still here, would not classify myself as "standing" so I do not share much of the 'other side'. Here is the deal .. yes I do not think you get on the other side of 40 without some baggage. The issue for me and my fellow LBHs (all MLC veterans) whom I am in a cyber support group with if you will ... we all have come up with the fact its like we have PTSD, you do not want to ever hurt like we did again so actually entering into a new R at first comes with the rush we hear about the MLCrs going through ... its new exciting and someone has an interest in you, then all the sudden signs, signals and flags start popping up. I still consider myself going through the healing process so I am not going all in with anyone and am upfront about it ... its nothing more than a GAL I was not pursuing. I know what I (and you all) went though is not something alot of people would/could do and I am stronger for it ... but there are still things I have to work on. Get better everyday is the motto, and something I do feel I continue and will continue to do.
