Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[JRuss]

Gump and anyone else still following this thread -- do you have any experience with/knowledge of the Enneagram personality stuff? I've been reading a lot on it lately, and it answers a lot of questions I've always had about my W and her personality (also about mine). I think my sitch is too far gone to salvage, but I wish I'd known about it a long time ago. In any event, it makes me see that, as you've said on different occasions, Gump, a lot of what we're going through now was baked into our spouses long, long ago, to the point where I read some of the stuff and say to myself "of course we could only have ended up here".