Reaching out for that conversation may look good on the surface but underneath just make sure it isn't a trap. I'd just straight up tell him that texting feelings is impersonal and if he wants to say how he feels, then say it. That way you can get the body language meaning - its much easier to fake while texting.
Good for you on standing the ground about the other relationship. It's an EA at best and PA at worst, and honestly I would say PA with the "secret meetings."
Jeep74- I invited him over the have the conversation yesterday afternoon. He sat and listened. I told him exactly how I felt. I said there cannot be any contact with that woman. This must be agreed upon before we can tackle any of our other problems. I don't know what he will come back to me and say. I think about his responses. If he agrees to cut this woman out, would I believe him? He's made promises before and broke them when it has come to her. Is it time for me to just say he had 4.5 years to sort this out and the fact that he doesn't (and seems to choose to keep her in his life despite how I feel) speaks volumes. Why should I settle for this? If I don't have exes hanging around, I deserve to be with someone who believes the same!
Originally Posted By: Jeep74
The book is great and gives wonderful advice. However, keep in mind that advice may/may not work in your situation as everyone is different. What works for some doesn't for others, and if you've read my threads then you'll know mine is much, much different and none of it worked. Hope the best!
I will keep that in mind. I'm starting to read various threads and I am eager to know your story as well.
