I'm sorry, but this sounds like a very scary situation. Something is not ringing right at all. You made a mistake and he has every right to be angry. But not controlling and abusive.
Was he anything like this before this happened?
Do you want to live in constant fear and at his beck and call and demand and cut off from your own family? That is not a way to bring your marriage to a healthy state.
No, he wasn't like this before. He can be over the top which is something I have to keep in mind going through this. Taking the doorknobs off...really I just rolled my eyes to myself, but I tell myself, whatever makes him feel better, no matter how stupid it is. I told him I'm not a doormat though. My name is still my name and I expect to be called by that regardless of how mad he is. Right now, I just feel he wants to see what I've done is actually affecting me. He tells me that he was the one who did this to me, he'd never be able to forgive himself.
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