Sandi would be the best to answer this but I think those rules don't apply to your situation. I'd read her whole situation from the start. Giving your h space and trying to meet his needs seems like the best you can do. I have been and am mad, sad, and depressed like your h and definitely sympathize with him. I just wish my ww was trying anything. Make a plan and present it to him. Make real changes to your life and show them.
Thank you Jug. Its been less than a week since this all happened and I'm desperate to get all the info I can right now so I don't make things worse. On behalf of us cheating scumbags, I'm so sorry you are going through this and for what we have done to you.
Just like you wish your WW would try like I am, I wish my H were on a thread like this trying to get some support. I have encouraged him to talk to people that have been in his shoes so that he can get their support and advice and/or go to counseling either with me or alone and he won't do it. I dont really blame him. This has happened to him before and the last one he actually gave a second chance to and they did it again. Right now I think he's going to feel like a pushover chump if he gives me a second chance too. I know I'm going to have to do most of the footwork on this if we're going to make it, just wish he'd find some support somewhere.
