Focus on Me and the Boys 10

[J5K]

Hello everyone, well I have been extremely busy over the last 6 days. Met with the child psychologist several times to help her understand our situation with the boys and possibly be an avenue to communicate with XW to come to an agreement about co-parenting in the same city. I have also discussed things with my L again. I have done everything I could to be amicable with no progress in developing a plan that XW and I can agree to.

I had to make the decision yesterday to stop my transfer. I sent XW an email stating that the boys will be changing school districts and was notifying her of the situation. She is not agreeing to it, so this will have to go back to court to enforce.

Here is the email I sent XW:

Hello XW,

Since my offer of 50/50 custody and co-parenting in Toronto was not accepted, I have found a home in XYZ, MI and wanted to inform you the boys will be changing schools after the Christmas break and attending ABC Elementary.

If you have any questions, please advise by close of business 12/16/16.

XW then starts texting me:

XW: First of all you made no official offer of anything

XW: You told the boys they were moving to TO

XW: How can you now tell them they're not

XW: You're an awful person through and through

XW: When is their next therapy session?

XW: You never planned to move

ME: I offered up to 50 50 multiple times and there was no agreement or progress in our discussions.

XW: Your plan was to move to XYZ, MI

XW: You're lawyer has to write it out

XW: We can't discuss anything

XW: It has to be presented in WRITING

XW: multiple times you were told to put it writing

XW: Never did

ME: If you truly wanted to work this out then you would have had your lawyer write it out.

XW: That's ridiculous you're the one moving and wanting to change the agreement

XW: It's not up to me to present changes

XW: Whatever Jim

XW: Nothing will change

ME: Ok nothing is up to you. I attempted an amicable offer.

XW: You didn't present it in WRITING

XW: there's no offer unless it's written out

ME: XW if we cant verbally agree then there is nothing to present in writing.

XW: So many times we "talked" about stuff then nothing ever happened

ME: I do not trust you.

XW: We are not supposed to discuss anything because we're not able to talk amicable

XW: We had a mediator set up

XW: What happened ???

ME: No we did not have a mediator set up.

ME: I specifically asked if you would agree to file the agreement in Ontario also and you did not.

XW: You don't even know what the f*^@ you're talking about

XW: This is a Michigan matter

XW: There is nothing to file in Ontario

XW: Talk to your lawyer

XW: Please respond to my email immediately

ME: I am sorry you feel this way.

XW: This is now an issue for the lawyers to handle

ME: I just consulted with you. XYZ schools are better

XW: No you didn't

XW: You can't just do whatever you want

ME: So will you agree or not?

XW: We have joint legal custody

XW: You didn't even ask me or inform me of your move

ME: Please answer the question

XW: It's for the lawyers to handle

XW: No I don't have to answer immediately

ME: Well you have until COB tomorrow.

XW: You can forward your request and information on the school and I'll look it over

XW: No I don't

ME: Have a good night.

XW: From now on it's best you consult with your counsel to avoid these kinds of messes

ME: I have and I also reviewed the agreement. This will have to go in front of the judge then.

XW: Ok so be it

XW: You don't get to do whatever you want

XW: Whenever you want

XW: That's not how it works

XW: Good luck getting in front of the judge before the new year


Dealing with XW is like dealing with a toddler, I want I want I want or I will make your life difficult. She has stated several times in phone conversations that she expects me to fail due to the degradation of the boys behavior and schooling and that she will eventually get custody of the boys.

I can no longer accept this type of drama in my life. Over the last few days my feelings have changed considerably towards her. I do not know if I would even accept a request for reconciliation if she offered.

I am moving forward with getting the boys into a stable home and routine. Lots to do!