Your H's relationship w/ his ex, as you described it, is entirely inappropriate. He should not be having regular meetings and texts with her, let alone secret ones.
Your subject line asks, "Not even married a year- hopeless?" I won't sugarcoat this. But the answer is yes. It's hopeless. I'm sorry. I just see far too much trouble in your marriage. There are people who show up here who have had 25 years of a good marriage, with young kids, sex and laughter every day for 25 years, and ... now they're here. You have been married a year.
This is really, really good stuff. Sorry, but I'll have to agree with Gump.
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But not all is lost. You can see this as a gift to your future self. Whatever you learn as you walk away from this wreckage can help you be in a far better place with your next relationship. Do some soul searching about how you chose the man you did. Why were you drawn to this person? Why didn't you see the fatal flaws you see now? How did you react poorly to problems?
Very, very good advice.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
