Not even married a year- hopeless?

[Dawgs]

I realize that he may not end that friendship. I am going to reach out to him to have a conversation. I would like for us to come to some agreement on how we talk to each other (no more texting our feelings). I will make it clear that if he cannot end that relationship, this marriage will be over. I'm glad you all agree I am not being unreasonable by doing so.

Reaching out for that conversation may look good on the surface but underneath just make sure it isn't a trap. I'd just straight up tell him that texting feelings is impersonal and if he wants to say how he feels, then say it. That way you can get the body language meaning - its much easier to fake while texting.

Good for you on standing the ground about the other relationship. It's an EA at best and PA at worst, and honestly I would say PA with the "secret meetings."

I ordered the DR book and it will arrive tomorrow. I will make the most of this weekend. Once it arrives, I'm sure this will be clear, but did it help many of you make a plan on how to move forward? I feel so lost with my feelings and need a road map..

The book is great and gives wonderful advice. However, keep in mind that advice may/may not work in your situation as everyone is different. What works for some doesn't for others, and if you've read my threads then you'll know mine is much, much different and none of it worked. Hope the best!