Lost in the MLC Desert

[Coly23]

Hey Rose, just caught up with your sitch. You are right in saying ours are so similar. My H doesn't spew or get angry and is also happy to keep us at the end of the rope!

I think you are doing so well and I admit I am a little jealous of the clarity you have around your sitch. I feel I am all over the place as there is no OW I don't really know what I am doing half the time! My DB coach said to treat H like a friend although I have told H in no uncertain terms that I will not be his friend. I'm not sure if he has absorbed that statement or not though!

When all this first went down H used to come over for tea once a week but after some 2x4's from the lovely people on here and recognising how it sent me spinning each time he left I stopped this and went dark for seven weeks and so did my D. He texted and called her constantly but she didn't respond. In the end I brought him back into the light by asking him our for coffee and then the spinning started up again! Maybe going dim is the way forward for you and I like the idea of you controlling the drop off for D15. You won't need to see him at all this way!

You seem to have a lot more control than you realise Rose and your GAL'ng is fantastic so you should give yourself a pat on the back. Has your H broached the subject of Chrustmas as yet? I think my H expected us to invite him fir Christmas Day but we are going to one of my older Sister's. I think he was a bit taken aback when I told him. Definitely a 180 for me as a few months ago I would have been bending over backwards to accommodate him!

Well done to your D in her results! Our kids make us proud when we see them achieving during these hard times.