Thanks for the visit to my thread and your kind words. I fully know that lost feeling. You can be sure though that you will be okay in time. As I read once, you've survived 100% of the bad days.
You do in fact have control. You have full control over yourself and your own actions and decisions. While you have no control over your H and the path that he is stumbling along know that it is your choice and your choice alone to decide on whether you want to work to save your marriage or walk away.
I often write on what we are going through as a journey and many of my past threads have that as part of their theme. The first and most important thing and I and others have written about it is that you need to first find yourself. Know yourself, love yourself, respect yourself. Once you have done that then you can start looking outward and forward.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells