Last couple days have been better. I'm starting to feel more angry than sad. Maybe a turning point? I know I will go back and forth more. Still no contact. I have been putting some financials together and a game plan to protect myself. The wife has asked for all this information last week in a email but so far I'm keeping it to myself. I have not been served and my lawyer advised not to do anything until she does. I'm starting to think she's trying to push me into filing. She has wanted this over with quickly so the first thing she should have done was file??
How are you doing today, my friend?
You will find that your emotions will be all over the place and can change more easily and quickly than that of a teenager's. But, as time passes, it will settle down...at least that's what I keep telling myself. For me, now, my emotions are a wreck concerning the kids. She let me know in no-uncertain terms that we will never go back to even try on our marriage...so, on that end I have let her go as best I could. Does that mean there are times when I miss her and us? Sure, but at the same time I realize there's no use in getting my hopes up. It is what it is.
Definitely do not give her any financial information. None. Your lawyer will need it, but not her. I have a feeling that she wants it for somewhat devious reasons.
I don't think it matters who files first - but some disagree and say the one who does has the upper hand. I'm not sure but in some instances it makes sense. As for me, I had to due the circumstances. I didn't want to and let my lawyer know it. But, as you said, mine wanted me to file so she didn't have that on her. In the end, mine gave in to every one of my things without a fight...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
