Welcome to my thread Peacetoday and thank you for your comments. It is quoted many places that if a couple can stay together in many cases their R improves again.Time will tell. Keep tuned to see how it turns out. .
Wow. Thanks everyone for dropping by and taking the time to write to me. It feels good to be amongst kindred spirits and feeling understood. I feel alone in my M so feeling less alone in my fight for it helps more than I can express.
I do not like where we are at and am unhappy about it. But I have accepted it as being as it is. Likewise it will finish in time one way or another. This is transitory and knowing that it will pass is a comfort. I don't know if I will be willing to continue like this for long time. But we will cross that bridge later. For now I am going nowhere and my W isn't either.
I have asked myself (and reask when struggling)whether it is harder to be with someone you love but doesn't love you, or being with someone you don't want to be with. I would find the latter much harder to support. So for whatever her reasons, fair dues to my W for still being here too.
I could go on and on for hours, but ye understand. Thanks for understanding. I am okay. I am under pressure and stress from many things at the moment but I am wading through them head on. The good thing about that is I demote my M problems from my head space!! And when I get through this stuff I have many many plans, goals, aims and fun stuff to concentrate on. I will outline this later.
Got to go.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
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