re: Christmas gifts, I dunno. I'm leaning towards let her get her own gifts as the sooner she has to deal with stuff on her own the sooner she's going to face those dreadful consequences the WAS' like to avoid like wayward teens. Ultimately though, follow your gut on that. If it doesn't feel right to you, don't do it.
xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver