where to begin or end? #2

[jade]

I think either im having an epiphony or just desperate to change my approach. I think i have been a little too focused on being stubborn about my wife not getting her fantasyland. Trying to "force" consequences on her.
I can imagine OM is totally agreeable to anything my wife says or requests of him, so she chooses him. So i think maybe if i switch to this approach, one to stop these pointless bickering matches and two maybe my stubborness is one of the things that pushed her away from the marriage. So next time she takes or asks, state my point of veiw but then let her call the shots. Seems counter intuitive. So im gonna pull her diy divorce draft out, take to my lawyers, have him set things up as the most fair draft he can, then leave them for her to decide to file on... Cooperate, without actually filing myself..
As far as kids and OM, Up to this point ive stepped up my dad/husband skills at home, all its done is taken the parenting pressure off them. Maybe its time to relax, play single dad a little, less responsible more fun..
I still will be cutting off the joint checking access and enforcing any property/financial boundries i can.