Hi Pheobe,

I am sorry your XH had ruined Xmas for you! I can see that you are a foodie, I immediately think that you are a person that enjoys life and knows how to live it:).

I don't know enough to give you any advice. I am right in the middle of the thick (can you say that...?), so I can only say I know it's hard, and its harder if you have a beautiful heart:). I was with my H for ten years, everything I do reminds me of the old him and how happy we once was. So I can definitely feel your agony. But you will make memory, good ones. Just keep being your beautiful self and someone (maybe your H, who knows) will notice. But we need to be happy with ourselves first. Because love attracts love, fear attracts fear.

Take care


Me: 33 H: 32
T: 10 years M: 2
BD: Aug 2016
H moved out Aug 20, 2016
S: 17 months old