Lol bttrfly, I know, right!? I think it comes from neither of us being willing to give up Christmas morning with S, and the fact that S wants to be home on Christmas. So, that leaves H coming here and spending the day, which is fine with me. He has to ask though, I am not offering! Lol. I know our sitch is an alternative to the norm, but it works for us. I think it is a huge reason S is doing so well, he knows he comes first, and believe me, he uses that! H hasn't been a gem, but he does do a lot of bending for S, knowing he prefers me and home.
Hi Cali. I have been thinking about your post, knowing you are so close to your S. My H is trying, he really is, he seems desperate at times to find something for them to do together. They are getting closer over the past year, S truly loves his dad very much. It's obvious in the bear hugs he gives him, the uncontrollable giggles and laughter when they tickle, it's something I love to be able to witness. My H obviously misses home and family, but he is so stuck and still not able to own up to his choices, it's all justify justify justify. So, I use soft love, as I am not good at tough love!
I hope you all are having a good day
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
