Altair - I agree for now anyway until I cannot bear it any longer. Every time I feel like giving in and walking away from the business (I would still own 1/2 or our 1/2...), I think - I cannot let her win. I don't have any control if my H is living with her, but I can certainly make it harder for her to replace my presence in the business. It just adds to the difficulty of distancing myself to have to have it in my face. Obviously, what is really at the core is that it is OW that he currently wants as a confidant and supporter - not me. First in his personal life, and now increasingly in his professional. Ugh.
As far as GAL, I have a few friends that I see regularly for happy hours (we are cheap!). I have joined a hiking group, and also a small support group at church. I probably get out at least 1-2 times per week socially, but need to expand my social network a little. Since I work from home, meeting new folks is a bit of a challenge. I also joined a pickle-ball club, but have only been once. Hopefully I will have time in January to start on that again. Our weather is beautiful this time of year, so my preference is for outside activities. I have been working out as well. That really seems to help, especially if it involves being outside vs. the gym.
A good amount of my GAL is just going through the motions, but I figure the chances increase of me actually having fun and putting this sitch out of my mind the more I do it. Fake it til you make it... I definitely am able to enjoy myself more now than a few months ago when I sat and cried through most activities. Progress....
M:49 H:49 T:28 M:26 S24, D19, S15 BD/PA: June 2016 H living separately next to OW
