We have been together for 25 years and married for 18. The marriage was happy but no without problems. She is very strong willed and I wrongly took a back seat to her demands and wishes for most of the marriage. We also argued a good bit but nothing out of the norm.
She began acting differently in September. Happy but very secretive with her phone. I became suspicious and began to snoop. The day before my birthday she handed me her phone and I found a messaging app hidden in a folder and discovered that she was having an affair. She went on a tirade about how I ruined everything by snooping and if I had just well enough alone it would have run its course and we would have been happy. I messaged the OM and he immediately stopped all contact. This made her even angrier. she gave me the ILYBNILWY speech. The next month was filled with fighting and her refusing to apologize.
She also began going out with her friends a couple of times a week. She said she had devoted her life to me and the kids and now was her time to be happy. She is now training for a bikini fitness competition and looks great. Her moods are a roller coaster. One day she wants her freedom and doesn't want to be married and the next she is willing to work on it. We have been having sex a couple times a week. Usually I iniate.
Last week, we had another relationship talk and she said she was done. I said if she didnt go out until the new year we could stay together over Christmas for the kids. She keeps making references to January when we are done.
She has hit every check mark on every mlc checklist I can find online. I have broken every rule that I have read on here over the last 3 days. Need some advice. Dont hold back
