Asking her to drop herself from credit cards, banking accounts, or whatever, is going to cause contention, b/c those sources serve her cake. Anything you can take charge and have done without her permission, then IMHO, you should just do it and then tell her. Not to be underhanded, but just taking care of business.
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Almost sent "why are you getting defensive" etc.
You know why she's getting so defensive! I'm glad you didn't send that message, b/c it is an invitation for a spew session. Don't open doors by throwing out questions like that quote. You will not like what comes through it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
