Another WW

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This situation is so annoying. Normally we go to my family and her family on Christmas. Since she is having the affair I told her we were not doing any get togethers as a family. I would do my family things and she would do hers. That means that I told her she can have the kids Christmas Eve and go to another one of her family's and I would take the kids Christmas Day and just do my family. Today she said she would pick the kids up on Christmas from my family's so she could take them to hers. I said no. She said I am doing this to hurt her and it's not the best for the kids. I said I am doing this because you are having an affair a divorce is what you want, this is how it's going to be so get used to it.
We then talked about if we should tell the kids before or after Christmas. I said after cause I don't want to upset them during Christmas. She said we should tell them something before cause it would be weird if we are not doing things together. I don't think they would think anything cause they are kids. Not sure what to do here.
She still thinks our marriage is done and acts like the affair is so normal and asks like it is not a big deal. She continues to say that she tried and I will never change. I continue to tell her she never tried, she just talked and did no action. I continue to tell her if that's what she wants, that's fine, but it's all on her.