Learning, growing and believing....

[mleigh4]

My heart almost burst at seeing all my friends here to pop by to give your support! It means so much, thank you.

I hear your thoughts about H wanting to share these bonds with S. I will say, H has been making a good effort to accept S for who he is, but every once in a while, he gets off track and goes a bit overboard. I am all for introducing S to new things, but not for forcing it. I also like that H has taught S about guns, and the dangers, how to use them properly, God forbid he come across one at a friend's house, but the shooting range thing was really dumb, knowing our S.

I do realize that H was also completely correct in that I don't really care what he says. I am no therapist, but I would guess that comes from the anger, and I do mean anger, that I have with him. That is something I need to focus on to able to co-parent properly. I need to be able to separate that and I will focus on that, for my Son's sake. I am literally counting down the years of having to deal with H on a regular basis, I figure about 7 more or so....lol

He voiced that he really wanted to get a Christmas tree all together, not separately, so we went on Sunday. We only got one for my house, and he said he would pick up a cheap small one for his place another time. He was so excited about getting a tree for his place last year! What a change. He also insisted paying for it and was about as sweet as pie could get. He said, in front of S, that we should get a nice tree for my place since we will be spending Christmas together there, with a question mark aimed at me.

I want to share some wise words to live by:

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow. Be thankful for the limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement. Be thankful for each new challenge, because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons. Be thankful when you are tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.

It's easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks. Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.