Can't help but think that the ending of your last relationship was a blessing in disguise....none of us want to deal with another BD 10 to 15 years down the line. And a guy that loves you 1 week, but stops talking to you the next was showing his true colors relatively early. This was a nice sign from the universe before you reinvested. I feel bad for the woman he ended up with.
Enjoy the wealth of experiences and stories you collect. You are an exciting and enriched woman for them!
I am experimenting with the though that life does not have to be a white picket fence with a partner? We know most people in those situations end up miserable. There is fun to freedom too.