Help - boundaries. Am I doing th ewrong thing?

[Woke_Up]

I switched to Samsung!

WW wants to do that. Her iPhone is on way out and she has figured that I am on top of all the syncing between devices that goes on.

You would need info such as where he lives to know if he has a criminal record. Even if he is real. Could be a con man after money. Anything is possible, or have a string of OW.

Seems to be real, have done all that already. Name, address, dob, phone. HAven't bothered with background check yet. Apparently he has offered to send her money so she can 'get away'... I'm sure she has given him the tale of how tragic it is she is trapped with me.[/quote]

I am always a cynic about these things. So cutting her ability to send this guy your family cash is important. He can likely research her asset worth if she is a director of your company. You may wish to change that too.

She is not a director, just a shareholder, and I never gave her access to the company account. But yes, OM has searched internet, and Companies House gives far too much info out publicly, so he has our address, company details, turnover, knows she is a shareholder etc. I think worst case scenario is that she is squirrelling money away so she can fly out to see him, although he has threatened to fly over here to hand out an 'ass whopping' to me in the past.

I don't trust him though. The guys really has nothing going for him, and nothing to lose in pursuing this. He also knows that if we split and sell the house that WW will be sitting on some cash. The messages I have seen from him strike me as pure manipulation, but I am looking at it from an outside perspective. Even WW has described it as a form of attention, flattery and guilt. But she knows this and still chooses to continue, still chooses to believe that it might be love, on some days convinced it is love. Brain chemicals eh? THis looks to me completely like limerance, possibly a bit of MLC involved. Her 'withdrawal symptoms' on Friday night convinced me.

Waywards and scrambled eggs for brains. Never ceases to amaze me.

The males are as bad as the females!

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Amen to that