Help - boundaries. Am I doing th ewrong thing?

[Vanilla]

The private pictures of the kids is very upsetting indeed, I understand this. FB pictures etc are somewhat public and likely innocuous.

Sadly I doubt you can stop her, you may wish to say if she sends private pictures of the kids you will research this guys background and if he has a criminal record etc. You can do that: might be a consequence to keep in the bag.

If you have the INTEL on this guy, you might find out more about him. You would need the INTEL first. It doesn't cost much to do in fact if you have the full name, age and dob. All usually on FB. I recommend you ask someone you know well in IT. That's how I found out so much about the Giggalo OW9, except he is now on OW10. So cutting her off at the pass might not make sense. The Giggalo was on the family iPad and I didn't tell him I could read all his messages, in fact for his birthday in March 2015, he had a new iPad and just left his old one (which was the Master ipad) and it had all the set ups on it. It no longer works because of apple upgrades so I set up an ipad2 with his stuff.

I switched to Samsung!

You would need info such as where he lives to know if he has a criminal record. Even if he is real. Could be a con man after money. Anything is possible, or have a string of OW.

Might be a lovely lovely man from Afghanistan, a soldier. Ha.

I am always a cynic about these things. So cutting her ability to send this guy your family cash is important. He can likely research her asset worth if she is a director of your company. You may wish to change that too.

I understand the UK tax structure, it's what I do for a living so it makes sense that you have a salary plus dividend structure.

Waywards and scrambled eggs for brains. Never ceases to amaze me.

The males are as bad as the females!

V