Your friend (as longood as I read his post correctly) mentioned you may join us here. You have been a long time struggling alone, here you will get wonderful feedback and support for your journey.
These particular kinds of OM are invidious because they enjoy the flattery and attention. I refer to Lady Caroline Lamb style who suffered from unrequited erotomania a fixation on Lord Byron. They encourage the wayward without wanting proper connection, sometimes and possibly even worse dangling consumation enticingly without meaning. Usually they are somantic and this particular one is a personal trainer.
It becomes a psychological addiction. There are others here who have this in their sitch and likely will offer mutual support.
This is very difficult as a sitch, and indeed there is mUchida work to be done.
Please tell your friend Vanilla says hi and has checked in on you.
It's going to be ok, and the difficult times alone struggling to think whilst not over are going to be eased.
Welcome to the board
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW