Others with more a prosaic turn refer to the lighthouse and that is a strategy.
Standing like a lighthouse with the lights on and the beacon showing the road home. Others have picnics in front of the lighthouse as an enticement.
It's a great image and holds for some.
I stood as the lighthouse whilst WH used a wrecking ball on the walls and then took a large boat out to sea to a foreign land!
Whatever works for each one of us.
But standing is good, means I can dodge bullets like in the Matrix film. I loved as was WH, then I walked, then I stood and DB. Until finally WH went so wayward he ran away when I called it. In the end I didn't need to walk. Yes, I was a walkaway wife but not wayward. That's all part of the process. I did that which I needed to do.
You and I have no control over the waywards in out lives, all we have is control over us. So we stand for ourselves and for the M in the hope of a new M.
Our behaviour, our GAL, our reactions and how well we do impacts us and any children for the rest of our lives.
Some stand for years for a new R becoming the best they can be and it is always, always the LBS that says the end.
Every LBS I know of personally has been the better for sticking at DB and working their sitch if they work their sitch.
At the end the wayward often stays empty inside and having to rebuild at some stage, in the worst state of their lives. There are some very sad stories of waywards, who lose their homes, children, spouses, money, have addictions temper tantrums and losses of every kind. The beauty of a board like this is past posters coming back to talk of their lives and success, moving on. Some with new R and others without. There is even a part of the board where batteries can recharge.
Others sit in midlife crises with crazy loco sitches but still stand for their M.
Others like V with serious abuse sitches need help to stand for themselves, learn to set boundaries and grow into the peeps they were intended to be.
So my thoughts are to concentrate on you, the stability for your children and clearly you are the more stable parent for those wonderful little gifts of life.
You speak so warmly and lovingly of your children.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
