Jrny, you've come to the right place. We all know the kick in the gut you've experienced. It almost seems surreal. I'm sorry you find yourself here, but know that there are a multitude of folks living the same experience as you and you are not alone.
A few quick thoughts. Folks are going to want to know some more details about you and your W. The more you can post about you the more folks can help you.
Also, you mention you are no longer the confident man you once were. It sounds like you've been working to get back there, but haven't fully made it. What's holding you back? How have you been working on yourself? What were your W's complaints about you? What kind of man are you working towards becoming?
Again, sorry you find yourself here. Hang in there and know that we are all here to help and support.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18