I continue to DB. I make sure my daughter sees me as nothing as respectable to her mother (even though her mother hasn't showed me the same level of respect). I know that I can look myself in the mirror and tell myself that I tried all I could to make it work. My wife cannot do the same. One day she will have to reconcile that.
Bippy78: my wife admitted that she was a terrible wife. She's a person who's lived with so much depression that I'm not sure she even knows what happiness is. She needs to go off and figure this out for herself. I cannot help her. The truth is, as much as I tried, I could never really help her. That was my fault.
I'm grateful that she didn't hammer me in the mediation. We both get to move on without overwhelming animosity. We're going to be in each other's lives for the foreseeable future so as angry and sad as I am, I'll continue to be a gentleman and treat her with respect so that my daughter see an example of what a man is.
