Cherry. Just trying to get on with life

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Cherry, I hope the point that you can take away is...

It simply does not matter why he is doing it...
There is no answer that can make you feel better nor alleviate the pain of it...
Dwelling on it only creates pain for you.
Slap a reason, any reason on it and step forward.

The statements he makes are absurd and if one can step back and look at the facts...
The comments can not be true...
Any rational person can see this...
No court nor law enforcement agency would give credence to the comments with out some physical proof...
Nothing can happen to you, except potentially some questions if a law enforcement agency had it reported to them...
I have some law enforcement background and trust me...absurd accusations happen, but there are many smart folks that will toss it out...assuming he even had the ba!!s to actually do something she ridiculous..

Spinning about the comments hurts only you and your child...
You can control the spinning.
Breathe...

You can not control him, nor his mother telling you nor an IC that felt it was important enough to tell you...

Yes, anger has it's place...but being angry about the absurdity of this does not benefit you.

Stay the course with,

I've had very little dealings with him recently, and despite feeling the odd bit of sadness, I've generally been doing good. I've been super busy with work, GAL with my best girlfriend, GAL with S, mil, family. Home renovations, baby shopping, baby preparing. And I had gotten to a stage where I wasn't even sure if I wanted to be in S m, I just knew that I was not going to be the one to file, push that he files, or pay the financial costs of filing. Partly because I am in no rush, I don't want another relationship for a good while until I've found my feet. And right now, my mind is fully on making sure me and my S are okay, and that I'm ready and prepared for the new baby. I've recently had freak outs at being a single mom and having a newborn, to which I've voiced to the antenatal team taking care of me, they're also aware of my situation and I'm seeking ic to better improve myself.

As V mentions, document it,
Then I say, slide it to the side and proceed with your building and strengthening of you.
The journey is a challenging one and you have some very good momentum...
Steer clear of the drama...
Stay the course...
You are headed in the right direction.

(((((Cherry)))))