Hi Coly,
Impulsive person here (raises hand)
I forgot about chocolates in the trees, my family never did that (nor lit candles in trees lol). I have no idea if this is true but it seems to me that in the States with the proliferation of dogs and cats in the house, chocolates in trees seems to be a bad idea. I know I had a dog at one point that definitely would have knocked down the tree to eat chocolate. Would get it whenever she could, there'd always be a day or so of panic, thinking the chocolate would kill her. Never did. My 2 cents: obviously you are emotional, and wanting to holidays to be happy and 'perfect', but your upset emotional state is most likely coming through loud and clear to H. Like others said, you are being needy. And pursuing! You've got to somehow break the pursuer/distancer cycle-- for now that would be to back way the F up. You should back up to let your emotions settle, not to get him to chase you (duh). I hope you can dig in yourself and find peace that is not connected to H. In that way, you'll be able to see more clearly.


me 42 H 32
T 7yr
M 6yr
BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY
Separated 7/2016