Just because your h has not reached out to you doesn't mean that he's not thinking about you. Some disappear for months and then pop back into our lives when we least expect them to. Right now, depression has him in a fog and he could be out there exploring the world trying to find a way to self medicate or he could be going to work and then coming home and sitting in a chair, in a dark room, staring at the TV. Some even sleep a lot. Whatever he is doing, he is trying to find himself and figure out why he feels the way that he does. Unfortunately, you can't help him because this is his journey and he is the only one that can help himself.
As for people asking about the situation, that's really better for you because then you don't have to explain what is going on. In some cases, people stop asking because they know how their questions could be affecting you and they don't want to see you in pain, so they do everything possible to avoid the subject. It's best to leave your situation right where it is at the moment, i.e., between you and your h.
I'm glad that you are working on yourself and have been placed in a new work group. Sounds like you'll be plenty busy w/Christmas activities for a while. All of these activities will help you focus on you for a change.
I want to also point out that we all come here and see similarities in our situations, but we need to be mindful that we do compare our situations, but no two are alike because the people involved are unique, the childhoods of those who walked are unique and the timelines will be different. Don't get discouraged by his disappearance. When he's ready, he will reach out in some way.
For now, keep moving forward and keep the focus on you. Altair, you are right where you are suppose to be at this time. Have faith in yourself and the man upstairs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
