I agree w/Sotto 100%...you are pursuing and pushing too much.
I know that my 2X4's will sound harsh...but you need to back off a bit. The Christmas Tree falling over was not an emergency and it could have been taken care of by you and your daughter. If you wanted him to know about the tree, you could have let him know about it the next time you talked. You are looking for your h to rescue you and reassure you that he's still out there. You've got to learn to take care of things on your own and only if there is an emergency, then call him. You are coming across as being needy and he's eventually going to step back to catch his breath.
Whether he's a MLCer or a Walk Away, we would use the same techniques...give them space and time. Yes, you are impulsive and I think you may be a bit insecure in the fact that you think you need to be in your h's sightline and give him reminders that you are still there. How can he miss you when you are in contact w/him periodically? Coly, give him the space he needs...he's not going to miss you if you don't and you are actually serving up his cake on a silver platter and he's eating it too when you are inviting him to things. He needs to sense the loss of your company and doing things w/you and your daughter. Step back, allow him to initiate invitations and lead some. This is his dance and you need to learn to be patient, snap that rubber band on your wrist and find other things to keep your mind busy so that you aren't tempted to text him. Just because he's quiet for a while doesn't mean he's not thinking about you because he is. After all, the holidays are here and he's thinking about you and your daughter and the fun things you've done in the past. Give him the time to truly miss you.
Keep your expectations at zero at all times. Again, I can't state this enough...back off some, allow him to lead/come to you and do not call him unless it is an emergency. If he contacts you, be friendly, listen to what he has to say and if he invites you to do something, then it will be up to you to either accept or decline...but don't come across as being too readily available and waiting by the phone for him to contact you. Time to make some plans for you and your daughter. It's time for your h to sit back, think about things and actually work on himself. He can't help you if he can't even figure out what's going on w/himself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
