I really appreciate your input and I anticipated that this may be your response. I am not going on this date as a response to my WS and her trip with OM. I bought these tickets a couple of months ago and I want to go to the show. Taking this person, who is also a LBS is something that I really debated and asked for advice on from very close and well meaning friends and my therapist....and they all felt I should within the right framework.
So my thought here is that I am going on this date to enjoy the companionship, the show and I have no plans to take it to another level. I know the timetable of this has not been that long (I love it that you did the math 71 days ), but I am not looking for another relationship or to confuse my standing. I do think that this will allow me to get a look into what else could be out in this world for me. I am struggling to hold the rope...the damage that has been done to my love for WS after dealing with her depression and struggles for 20 years, has left me in a place where I need to discover what I really want and what taking her back would really mean.
I think as we all go through this, we all need to be able to prepare for either outcome (reconciliation or D) and if we don't honestly look at this, it will make the decision we make to either accept them back or move on even more difficult. These 30 days are a way for me to get some time to think about what I want and what my choice will be.
I understand what you mean by getting updates on WS and her activities...you know how much we all struggle to hear of something about them. I can tell you that I do take this all one day at a time and I am not planning anything beyond this date. I have been in great control of my actions, emotions and reactions to all of this, thoughout the 71 days since BD and I don't plan on losing that ability in any way.
I love you both and I really appreciate the fact that you took time to share your thoughts amidst your own challenges.
Take care xoxoxo
M52 W52 M17 T20 SS 23 from my 1st M Lives on his own BD 10/01/16 Trial Sep 12/01/16
), but I am not looking for another relationship or to confuse my standing. I do think that this will allow me to get a look into what else could be out in this world for me. I am struggling to hold the rope...the damage that has been done to my love for WS after dealing with her depression and struggles for 20 years, has left me in a place where I need to discover what I really want and what taking her back would really mean.