Ok ... its been about a month so just thought I would update, not really much movement or anything but I do still want to keep the log up to date as I can ya know in the running spirit of the science project and all.
MLCr update: .... I struggle to call her wife/ex-wife/stbx .. whatever so I have just resorted calling her my MLCr in posts here. Does not really matter but for whatever reason its still strange to me on just what to call her. Anyways about the only thing of note was this week, I contacted her to discuss S9's Christmas list, he had shared it with me and I covertly took a picture as he still believes in Santa (W and I did agree to let him find out on his own and be traumatized as we all were in our youth). So he had his list and I just wanted to make sure we did not double up. 2013 we did the 'fake family' Christmas. 2014 I set the boundary and it was 2 separate ones as I was not going to allow any more cake eating at that time. 2015 we were back together and had a normal (well ... sorta Fog Bank Normal) one. This year back to separate. So she replies back with what she had got him, I start to remove items out of my Santa-Amazon cart and I just sat there with this dumbfounded look .... like seriously the WTF look. She has ALWAYS been frugal, ALWAYS .... like she would spend $20-40 TOPS on any gift. I typically go big this time of year, always have. The things she got S9 totaled out more than what we spent combined on S9 last year, and thats saying something as I kinda went nuts for him last year. Usually she would have at the least approached me to split it ... not one word. Just to put my shock into perspective, I would have bet on Trump asking Hillary to be his VP before I would have bet my MLCr would have spent more than $100 on anyone for one Holiday. Maybe guilt, maybe she is trying to do something with the financials for the D paperwork I am not sure, and I typically have a great mind-reading hat I wear but this one did shock me .... other than posting it here I let it go with a shrug but it is in the archive of the great MLC mysteries of 2016 I would love to know the answer to someday.
Other than that, I have been really busy. Day job has been going very well we have been laying out the expansion groundwork and adding new equipment. I am not sure if I mentioned it here but I took another night of DJing on ... Thursday and Friday nights now with the agreement Thursday is under the table for tax purposes which has been helping me get ahead and pay off some things with the focus on buying a condo when and if this D thing ever does happen, something I still have not pushed on, have not heard anything back since I was served back in Sept but like all things I will take it as it comes.
With all the work and gigs I only really have every other weekend open without S9 and I have been dating some here and there, nothing serious but just getting back out there a bit and sadly ran into one who was absolutely in the middle of MLC, she shared her story and was following the bulletpoints of the script to a T, I shook my head and thought about her poor ex-h who probably has no idea what hit him.
I find myself still reading a bit here and on the other site, I only post here to a couple people I feel I can pass on some hard earned lessons to, but also realize like me ... sometimes you just have to work through it your own way in your own time .... still fight that fixer that lived in this shell for so long.
Anyways to those new, and the vets I pray you have a wonderful, safe, Christmas ... I get how hard this time of year is for so many of us, but trust it does get better... there is light and good things on the other side.
