where to begin or end? #2

[sandi2]

and even in divorce, i currently see no alternatives to keeping her away from the house besides moving to a "safe house" like my moms, or any alternative to her getting the bulk of my sons bonding time.. it seems my son prefers OM place, OM, and wife

My son went through the things you are experiencing, and all his youngest child could talk about was what they did with the OM, and OM this & OM that. I will share with you what I told him, and it doesn't mean it will necessarily help.....I'm just trying to give you something. The OM has to win your children, b/c of their mother. You don't. OM has to Mr. Personality, has to show them a good time, buy things for them and play with them......even if it's just to get on the good side of your W. You don't have to, b/c you already do those things out of true love for your kids. Daddy doesn't have to "win" them b/c he already has their hearts. Nobody can possibly replace you, or your love. OM is new! That's all. S3 would probably be excited about any new person who is knocking themselves out to make S3 like him. It eventually fades out. But something that will NEVER go away is the love between you and your children, and no other man can ever be their daddy. That is a birthright that came when those babies were born.
No matter how many people your children will love in their lifetime, there will never be anyone they love in the same way they love you.

(((Jade))) I am so sorry for your pain. I have not told you one thing you didn't already know, but sometimes, it helps a little to just hear someone else say it.