Sorry. Still lots to learn for me. In MWD LRT downloads. She says jump at any family time offer and if there is any asking 'how you are' this is a really good sign. I can see if there is an OM and therefore WW then the answer is no. But MWD also says forget cake eating on this specifically. That is ego.
I totally get the temp checking and if involved with OM - no etc. But I do wonder what MWD would say.....sorry this is probably really naive but like I say, I am still learning and get confused between what I read and listen to from MWD and the more hardcore approach I see from the Vets here...
Also, what if W was not seeing OM but was showing signs of waywardness - relatively infrequent flare ups (requiring validation etc).
Surfer.
Ugh! I am still learning also. There are days that I wish we could R our MR. But then I think to myself that I just really want what we used to have and I know that just can't happen. Can it be different and better? Yes I believe so, but I am just not sure she is willing to go there. I do believe that she wants a new relationship, which includes just being friends, we where very good together really, and she would agree. But I am just not interested in being friends with her. I have learned through this that people come and go in life, even family. I passed at the opportunity to spend Christmas with her, and I also gave her very little emotional support when she said that she was sorry and that she was lonely. I also responded to her text that asked how I was saying only that I am good and keeping busy. I had a small window to act on her reaching out and that has passed, I missed it. It was easy to pass so I really do think that I am just ready to move on.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
