She also won't ask me to sleep in our bed together. We were doing this just a little less than a month ago before our last fight. She called our marriage counselor and set a session up on her own free will as I have began this letting go process. I am having mixed feelings it seems. I love her, but at the same time I wonder if I could be happier with someone else.
Tell her that since she left the relationship, she needs to leave the marital bed - and say it like that. And you, MLH, DO NOT leave the bed. Its up to her. As far as your snooping, as long as you have enough info to prove an affair, then stop. You've got all you need. DO NOT throw it away. It will come in VERY useful if there are divorce proceedings.
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I love her, but at the same time I wonder if I could be happier with someone else
Very telling statement. Very. To me, if you are wondering like you say, then that says you are just as done as she is and it is time to move on.
Time to focus on yourself. And get your head clear (don't make my mistake) before bringing anyone else into the picture...only AFTER you are divorced, of course. Now, sex, on the other hand, with someone else after the divorce is sometimes just what the doctor ordered.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
