Diagnosing NPD is difficult and actually it doesn't matter if you have a label or no. The behaviour Sara is abusive and the way he has been about the STD is all about him. I see no remorse for this physical assault on you.
If he is NPD then he has no conscience so he will be asking you how you are not to assauge his guilt but out of pleasure. He has control and you having this procedure and still being there is evidence of his control. Just saying.
When I went for my STD test the Giggalo said 'that's part of being in an R'. No Giggalo, it's evidence that you are wayward and fishing in the shallow end of the swamp. If you have no regard for yourself then why would you have any regard for my health?
Frankly if you read my thread on it, that was a big spell break moment for me.
An observation again from me, Sara by being there at home after the proceedure and asking WH to take care of the kids, pretty please is minimising. I think you may be trying to make a point with WH. To see if he is guilty and is penitent. It's clear it's all BAU for him and he has done the minimum 'do you want to talk'.
This isn't self care sweetheart. Because this isn't BAU.
Just another bump into the road?
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
